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The Acceptance Pendulum

Certainly the path along which I have chosen to tread has had its ups and downs!

Some things I have found harder and have taken longer to come to terms with. I sometimes share these anxieties with friends but as they are friends with both of us, this isn't very fair on them. I discovered that through my GP I can access a Counselling Service on the NHS. One has to wait for the first appointment, so its no good being desperate! Once my course of sessions with the Counsellor started, I found it extremely helpful to have a completely objective person listening to me.

It's never easy. I really needed to put things into perspective. There are men who beat their wives or drink the money needed to put food on the table!! A health scare I had was the final stage. Life is too short to fret over social niceties.

14 years on and there are still moments when I wished cross-dressing had never entered my life. I will still get a small knot in the pit of my stomach when we head out as two girls. However, that usually disappears more quickly than it used to, when every trip was a small nightmare. Conversely, to this I would fight like a tiger if anyone dared to challenge Penny and would demand they voiced a plausible reason for their bigotry. Most friends are completely accepting. The family knows but prefers not to know Penny or even hear about her. Hard but understandable. Although he continually assures me he does not wish to transition it remains a worry, as I do not want to lose the "man".

 

Would you like to join us?

Beaumont Partners is a volunteer organisation, run exclusively by women, for women. We aim to improve the emotional wellbeing of women who are experiencing issues as a result of discovering that their partners are transgender.

If you're a woman with experience of living with someone who's transgender and are willing to share your personal experience to the benefit of others, we'd love to hear from you - why not drop us an email at orchidbp@virginmedia.com

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