How To Tell Your Partner
I found out when I discovered clothes and shoes in the wardrobe. I then had to summon the courage to ask.
The answer I got was so much better than what I had been imagining! I discovered things about myself that I didn't know before…that I could actually welcome this side of my husband's personality.
As soon as possible; directly and completely. In hindsight he wishes he had.
Many cross-dressers will tell you that often the urge to dress diminishes in certain circumstances. When we met we had an intense loving, physical relationship and my husband said that suppressed the feelings. However, they will always come back, as they did. I had noticed my usually placid husband was much more irritable than usual and a little remote. This concerned me having already had one broken marriage. One night he sat me down and told me he had something he wanted me to know, but (as a writer) he had put it into a letter to me and after I had read it we could talk. Shock, horror and tears were the immediate aftermath. 4am and a bottle of red wine later came the first calm moment and bed. There is no right way to tell, but open discussion for as long as you, the partner, desire it is vital.
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Beaumont Partners is a volunteer organisation, run exclusively by women, for women. We aim to improve the emotional wellbeing of women who are experiencing issues as a result of discovering that their partners are transgender.
If you're a woman with experience of living with someone who's transgender and are willing to share your personal experience to the benefit of others, we'd love to hear from you - why not drop us an email at orchidbp@virginmedia.com
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